stellarmess's Datingish

Top Celebrity Crushes:

Thu, 26 Mar 2009 01:50:36 GMT

I got this idea from a blogger on mancouch. I feel like doing my own (=

MALE CRUSHES:

1. Mr. James Franco- Brains. Looks. Talent. His role on Pineapple Express got me. He has the cutest smile.

2. George Clooney- I don't care how old he is. This man is beautiful.
3. Brad Pitt- There's nothing to say.

4. Jason Mraz- There's something about him that's soo charming. Love the music, personality & passion. He's great.

5. Patrick Dempsey- "McSteamy;" He has what very few people have nowadays.. classic beauty.

6. Michael Cera- He's such a little nerdling. I love it. He's cute.

7. Jay Hernandez- Every movie he stars in, i fall in love with him all over again.

8. Shia Labeouf- Look at this bad boy now. He's the shxt.

FEMALE CRUSHES:

1. Audrey Hepburn- I know, she's deceased, but this girl is beautiful. I adore her.

2. Natalie Portman- Any girl that can rock this do and look absolutely fabulous is gorgeous in my book. Love her.

3. Angelina Jolie- She's fierce and sexy. Sometimes her beauty is rather odd, but she has this sexy essence. Girl got it.

Who says hottness has to revolve around looks? Who are your top celebrity crushes?

i hate getting my hopes up with you.

Thu, 19 Mar 2009 16:51:58 GMT

Small things.
Small things.

I ask him to do small things. He can't even do something as simple as going to mass or waking up to see me. My mother is complicated and won't let me go out...he knows that. He doesn't do anything for me unless it's on his own time. And he complains that he does so much for me. I don't ask him to. I hate asking because then he'll just blame it on me.

inhalexhale.

He doesn't know what he wants.

Mon, 16 Mar 2009 16:49:21 GMT

My bf and i got into this BIG argument. He thinks i'm bothered by the fact that he's always out hanging with his friends. No. That isn't even it. All he seems to be doing nowadays is going out to the bar with his friends. He doesn't even have a job. He doesn't even take classes anymore. He doesn't know what he wants. & quite frankly, that bothers me. It really bothers me. He doesn't even see the big picture. goodness.

inhalexhale.

Why do the good ones fall for the wrong guys?

Sun, 08 Mar 2009 04:12:05 GMT

So my best friend and i were discussing this topic the other day. We've realized that the good girls always seem to fall for the wrong guys. She is a good catch, but she manages to fall for someone who doesn't deserve her at all. It's funny because my dad asked me the same question. My bff and i have compiled a list of possible reasons why the smart ones make stupid decisions in their love interest:

1. These girls see it as a challenge for themselves. They are ready to conquer the challenge and be the one to change this boy for the better.

2. The good ones aren't usually the type to approach a guy or "make the first move." Thus, the fact that a guy is making effort is a plus. That leads me to my next point...

3. Girls see their hard work as rewarding and admirable. They think, "oh, he's working hard to get me, so i'll give him a chance."

4. Opposites attract (?) This can go either way, but I believe this. A guy that can bring out another fun side of a female is exciting.

5. These girls are just blind. They overlook the bad side & give them the benefit of the doubt. "...stupid lamb"

dang yo.

Sun, 08 Mar 2009 03:45:13 GMT

man, this whole relationship deal is tough stuff.

"Talking," a form of cheating?

Wed, 04 Mar 2009 21:27:55 GMT

What qualifies as "cheating"? Do you believe talking to others can be considered a form of cheating?

My bf and i are going thru a rough patch right now. He's been going out meeting new people and drinking with God knows who. The thing that bothers me, is he doesn't let me know what's up. He doesn't give me full details about ANYTHING. One of his close friends has started coming to me for his girl problems recently. I turn to him for advice about my bf sometimes because he listens and is willing to talk to me. Instead of just calling for advice though, this guy has been checking up on me & having conversations about anything & everything every night & sometimes morning. He texts me to see how I am and to ask what's up. He hasn't hinted anything to me yet, but I feel like this is wrong. I'm not trying to get into anything dramatic. Would you consider this a form of cheating?

I'm the rule, not the exception.

Sat, 28 Feb 2009 21:43:50 GMT

I’m the rule, not the exception.

Cheesy, I know. It’s true though. I try not to allow myself to learn life lessons from cheesy movies. I haven’t finished the whole movie yet, but I can say it’s a pretty decent movie. For all those that do not know what I am talking about, I was referring to the movie “He’s Just Not That Into You.” Do you think females are born that way or they make themselves that way? Do you think a person can grow out of being the rule and become an exception or is it just out of pure luck that that happens? I can’t help but think I will always be the rule. What do you gals think?

he's stupid.

Sat, 28 Feb 2009 02:51:22 GMT

why does he say he's going to change?
...when deep down you know that isn't going to happen, but you have too much faith in him.

why does he keep things to himself?
...when silence is the absolute worse thing a guy can do to his girl. we want the truth, we want details. kthanks.

why does he make a big deal about the small things i do?
...when i give him space to breathe so he can enjoy things that should bother me, but no, i keep that to myself.

why is he so stupid?

i apologize for the last couple of entries, i'm feeling a little morose nowadays.
boys suck.

Bullshit?

Fri, 27 Feb 2009 02:39:49 GMT

So idk exactly what i am with my ex(?) We're working to fix what our relationship lacked, but he seems to be perfectly fine. He's hanging out with more people, talking to a bunch of girls on facebook & probably on the phone. He says he doesn't need his friends when he's the one who complains about not having any. Am i wasting my time?

My first love was a selfish kinda love.

Mon, 23 Feb 2009 13:47:32 GMT

I just got out of my first relationship yesterday and i'm so lost right now. I've talked to a friend of mine that gave me the 411. See, deep down i knew what he had for me was a selfish kinda love, but I couldn't bring myself to believe it. I was an idiot and thought he could change. I thought it would be fine and tolerable because he really loves me. It's tough because I know he loves me & love requires adjustment and compromising. He has done a lot for me and i appreciate it, but the pain sucks. Break ups suck.

We fight a lot, so I didn't want to believe he "couldn't be with.." me. It all became a reality when he changed his relationship status online. He told me, "i wanted to prove a point." After i found out, i couldn't bounce back. Its been good, but I realized, I wasn't truly happy. I was settling. I didn't know what to do... it was my first relationship.

My best friend and him fought so we stopped talking for 2 months, he gets mad when i hang out with friends, he got mad at me when i attended a family party that my mother specifically told me to tell him not to attend.. expecting me to "defend" him & stand up against her, he says i don't care all the time, he uses what he does for me as reasons for me to do things for him...

My first love was a selfish kinda love.

I found this comparison of selfish love and selfless love online:
"The difference between selfish and selfless love"
The two types of love -- selfish love and selfless love -- are diametrically opposed. Selfish love is conditional love; you simply want your needs to be met, and if the person you have chosen to love doesn't serve your needs, you reject that person and search elsewhere. Although it may seem beautiful for a time, such love is bound to be fleeting. When the person you love wants help, you may give it. But once the price becomes too high, if you feel you are giving more than you are receiving, you simply stop loving. After all, there is only so much discomfort that you are willing to tolerate for another person.

Selfless love, though, means rising above your own needs. It means going outside of yourself, truly connecting with another person's soul and therefore with G-d. There are no conditions for such selfless love; when G-d is the focus of our love, we do not constantly redefine our wants and needs.

[http://www.chabad.org/therebbe/article_cdo/aid/60697/jewish/Love.htm]

It's sad because that description of selfish love matches what this relationship has been. I know i'll be fine, but right now, i just don't know what to do.